Neil Strauss: When Love Is A Drug #68

Sex, love, and intimacy - The great mysteries of life. Our guest Neil Strauss is a seven-time New York Times best-selling author and has spent the better part of ten years devoting his life (and writing) to learning the ins and outs of romantic relationships, and how to make them work. From his days as a pickup artist in his book The Game to his recent awakening to the merits of true love, kids, and marriage in The Truth, Neil has committed himself to the study and practice of relationships with a tenacity few others have. 

In this episode, you'll learn the secrets to identifying dysfunctional relationships, codependency, sex addiction, and every other form of romantic pathology, and how to avoid them. 

Whether you're happily married, single, or on the hunt for romance, this episode will no doubt prove to be a powerful catalyst of truth and self-realization, as Neil and I take a very real and raw analysis of ourselves for the benefit of the audience, and anyone they might love. 

May you find peace, companionship, and fulfillment in your current, or future affairs of the heart. Share this episode with a friend or partner, in hopes that we might all get a little better at this thing called love. 


  • How Neil's book The Truth changed my life forever
  • Becoming emotionally healthy enough to have a fulfilling relationship
  • What are the different stages of a romantic relationship? 
  • Identifying co-dependency, and how to break the cycle
  • The curse of emotional enmeshment, and how to trade that for true intimacy
  • How to stop pleasing and pathological accommodation
  • Taking responsibility over blaming: to overcome your wiring first you gotta understand it
  • Behavior vs. belief: understanding what creates lasting change
  • Is sex addiction a real thing, and how to tell if you're got it
  • The dangers of trauma bonding with a romantic partner
  • How our childhood shaped our brain, and as a result the way we behave in relationships 
  • How to define commitment? Is monogamy possible? 
  • Lifestyle recommendations